Frustration Triggers

Hi Blog family,

I’m on a quest to be more patient and to deal more productively with my frustration triggers, so I’ve been doing some research to help myself out.

Last week I talked about how I recognize when I’m frustrated and what my particular warning signs are. It may seem easy, but figuring out the physical manifestations of my irritation was the first step toward me putting a halt to my reactionary behavior.

So, I get a tense feeling in the right upper quadrant of my abdomen and my temperament approaches the boiling point. I’m upset. I implement my five steps to help prevent me from saying or doing something I cannot take back.

boy-666803_1280

Now what?

My next step is to pinpoint exactly what is frustrating me. What is the trigger? What belief do I hold that creates sensitivity to the trigger?

Too often I lose my cool and fly off the handle. Blame pours through my brain like a monsoon. One thing leads to a whole slew of things I had repressed.

A more productive response to frustration triggers is necessary.

Isolating what specific behavior bothers me has two benefits:

  1. I see what event is the trigger
  2. I can identify patterns among my triggers to find the root cause

traffic-1149960_1280

For example, I drove to work and another driver refused to let me merge onto the highway. I became upset and yelled at said driver in my car.

Why?

Entitlement. I feel I have more right to the road than they do.

Intolerance. Everyone should drive as well as I do.

Tremble and do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Offer the sacrifices of the righteous and trust in the Lord (Psalm 4:4-5 NIV).

This practice of pinpointing my frustration triggers is akin to searching my heart.

What inside me does God need to mend?

Where did I veer off, believing what culture tells me instead of what God teaches?

I need to go to God in prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection to help me overcome my sense of entitlement and intolerance. Neither of these attributes were taught or revered by Jesus, and they are not things I value in my heart.

IMG_20140126_142414

Actions can be reflexive. While God continues to work on my heart, I’ll work on identifying my frustration triggers. Over the next two weeks, I’ll go over steps I can implement to break my reactionary habits.

What are your frustration triggers? Let me know in the comments.

Until I figure this out, let me merge for crying out loud. 🙂

Love, K.

Advertisements

12 thoughts on “Frustration Triggers

Add yours

  1. I, too, can get so frustrated when someone doesn’t drive like I think they should!! It seems ‘okay’ to get angry in the car and say unkind things, because that person can’t/doesn’t hear me, and I’m alone in the car. But, I find that allowing myself to get easily irritated when no one hears me becomes habitual and then it seems just as easy to get irritated with someone who can hear me, like the sales clerk that I’ve just been rude to in my impatience! It’s something I’m working on often, though it’s a slow and difficult lesson for me to learn!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. I have a few frustration triggers that normally occur in the workplace. I get tense, sometimes I can feel my face getting hot, and I tend to purse my lips …heart rate goes up too. I feel I am getting better, but still not completely there. It helps to think that some things really are just with “the offender.” I don’t have to take in their stuff, even if it is directed at me. I am valuable and loved by the one true God. I am going to keep moving forward at my best. Thank you for your thoughtful blog posts Vin!

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

A WordPress.com Website.

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: