Perspective Shift

Hi blog party people,

I’m doing a blog series on frustrations as a cheaper means of therapy to help me become more “fluid” in my life. In order to truly move past frustration and into the land of peace, I need a perspective shift.

In part one and two of this series, I expanded on how I need to recognize when I’m becoming upset and pinpoint the cause and potential patterns. While this sounds ridiculously easy, in the heat of the moment it’s really easy for me to miss.

Over the last few weeks, I wrote and thought a ton about this topic, and I’ve become more aware. The several times I’ve been frustrated, I didn’t recognized it until after the episode was over and I had face-planted in the situation. Not ideal.

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Clearly, recognition alone isn’t enough. As God works to change my heart, I must to figure out how to stop reacting to my frustration triggers.

How?

My third step is to alter my perspective.

Immediately upon sensing frustration, I have to put myself in the other person’s shoes. It’s easy to see things entirely from my own vantage point and miss the circumstances which may affect someone else.

In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:6 NIV).

My path is crooked and leans in my own favor; this is human nature. Each of us creates our own crooked path, recognizable and familiar to only us.

I need to open my eyes to other scenarios and facets within every situation- a perspective shift.

I was in the grocery store one day, and the lady in front of me in the checkout line turned her back to me after I greeted her. I thought, Maybe she just had a fight with her husband or her kid got in trouble at school.

I don’t know if those things were true, but I can guarantee her behavior had nothing to do with me and everything to do with things going on in her life. I let it go.

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Widening the lens in which I view my own circumstances creates room for grace toward others. 

After all, when I make a mistake, I love for others to show me grace.

Because judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment (James 2:13).

I don’t have to understand everyone or accept poor behavior on a routine basis, but I am called to prioritize mercy to those with whom I have friction.

A fine line exists between holding one’s ground against a wrongdoing and extending mercy, though I do think it’s possible to do both.

Next time I get upset, I hope I recognize the signs, can point to what specifically bothers me, and immediately undergo a perspective shift and allow for grace.

Fingers crossed!

Love, K.

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  1. Its always good for us all to do a perspective shift. Sometimes we look at things in the worst possible way from a one person point of view which is our own but there is always an alternate way of looking at any situation for clarity or not to make assumptions for the worst.

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  2. This is a great post! It resonates with me– a lot! I tend to put myself in someone else’s shoes before I react. Loved this: I don’t have to understand everyone or accept poor behavior on a routine basis… Yes it is important to have mercy, but it is also extremely important to protect my energy; first! Balance 🙂

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  3. Somebody once told me, ‘what other people think of you is none of your business.’ That lady at the checkout may have just been grumpy, or was judging you, but no matter what – you don’t have to make excuses for them. Let people think what they may. I love this post, it’s very introspective and honest, and you’re absolutely right – we need to put ourselves in other people’s shoes more often. As the saying goes, ‘everybody has something going on their lives.’ 🙂

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  4. Putting yourself in the other persons shoes really does make a huge difference in the way we see things. As for myself, I write in a journal. I write down what frustrates me, how I responded and what I could have done differently to change the outcome of how I felt at that moment. I look back on what I’ve written before and I see how things have changed. I dont get as frustrated at what now seems to be trivial issues. It truly opens the eyes 🙂

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  5. I know that the right perspective or changing perspective is very important not to get upset all the time. In my case love has helped me to improve my mood, as I keep focusing on more pleasant things. 🙂

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  6. I love your grocery store example. I am working on shifting my perspective because normally in that situation I would have told myself she’s a jerk and that’d be the end of that, lol. Wonderful post.

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  7. Mercy triumphs over judgment! Oh, I’m so thankful. I’ve been doing some writing on the same topic (controlling frustration and anger and learning to react in appropriate ways). Thank you for the reinforcement. It’s helpful to know that others are fighting the same battles (and making progress).

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  8. I think this an admirable and honest way to deal with frustration and anxiety. Talking it out, writing down your thoughts and getting a fresh perspective will definitely help you sort things out.

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