Hi blog party people,
I’m doing a blog series on frustrations as a cheaper means of therapy to help me become more “fluid” in my life. In order to truly move past frustration and into the land of peace, I need a perspective shift.
In part one and two of this series, I expanded on how I need to recognize when I’m becoming upset and pinpoint the cause and potential patterns. While this sounds ridiculously easy, in the heat of the moment it’s really easy for me to miss.
Over the last few weeks, I wrote and thought a ton about this topic, and I’ve become more aware. The several times I’ve been frustrated, I didn’t recognized it until after the episode was over and I had face-planted in the situation. Not ideal.
Clearly, recognition alone isn’t enough. As God works to change my heart, I must to figure out how to stop reacting to my frustration triggers.
My third step is to alter my perspective.
Immediately upon sensing frustration, I have to put myself in the other person’s shoes. It’s easy to see things entirely from my own vantage point and miss the circumstances which may affect someone else.
In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:6 NIV).
My path is crooked and leans in my own favor; this is human nature. Each of us creates our own crooked path, recognizable and familiar to only us.
I need to open my eyes to other scenarios and facets within every situation- a perspective shift.
I was in the grocery store one day, and the lady in front of me in the checkout line turned her back to me after I greeted her. I thought, Maybe she just had a fight with her husband or her kid got in trouble at school.
I don’t know if those things were true, but I can guarantee her behavior had nothing to do with me and everything to do with things going on in her life. I let it go.
Widening the lens in which I view my own circumstances creates room for grace toward others.
After all, when I make a mistake, I love for others to show me grace.
Because judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment (James 2:13).
I don’t have to understand everyone or accept poor behavior on a routine basis, but I am called to prioritize mercy to those with whom I have friction.
A fine line exists between holding one’s ground against a wrongdoing and extending mercy, though I do think it’s possible to do both.