We can’t change or grow if we hide our flaws or pretend they don’t exist. We will continue in the same patterns obtaining the same results.
So, I’m revealing my struggles in my blog as a way to keep myself honest.
I’m finishing up a series on frustration in order to teach myself patience. This week the focus is on how I align thoughts with purpose.
In this series, I’ve learned to recognize when frustration occurs (the physical signs), pinpoint what is upsetting me (the trigger behavior), and shift my perspective (place myself in the other person’s shoes).
I need to creatively and intentionally redirect my thinking to align with my purpose.
A friend and I talked recently about our “superhero selves” or the way we see our inner person in our mind’s eye. These amazing heroes always say and do the right things. My superhero-self is humble, kind, and only speaks up (with complete wisdom) when necessary. Ha!
While I will never be my superhero self, I can work to ensure my actions contribute to God’s purpose for me, which is as follows:
God teaches me courage and perseverance through events in my life, so I can share with others.
How is yelling at traffic furthering my purpose? It’s not. That’s why this blog series is so important to me.
How do I go about re-aligning myself? By asking a quick few questions.
Is the other person’s behavior:
Harming someone else in any way?
Impeding my path to a goal?
Affecting my ability to share with others?
If not, then I redirect my thoughts back to my purpose.
“Even though that person cut me off, I’ll get to work on time just the same.”
If yes, then I need get the situation back on track with my purpose.
“Let me move into my bedroom to write so I’m not disturbed by the people outside.”
“My coworker felt discouraged from that situation. Let me see if I can help.”
It’s a lot of letting go.
Holding onto the small stuff saps energy I could be using for important things.
I’m tired of wasting time and energy focusing on what doesn’t matter. I need to let go of what doesn’t affect my purpose.
If someone or a situation frustrates you:
- Stop. Catch yourself before responding in a negative way. Pray and vent your emotions.
- Figure out what is the specific trigger in their behavior and what personal trait makes you sensitive to it.
- Put yourself in their shoes. Change your perspective.
- Figure out if this affects God’s purpose in your life. Strive to align thoughts with purpose.
What if you don’t know your purpose? Well, that’s what we’ll talk about in the next series.
That’s it for now on frustration. I’ve loved all of the comments and hearing about how you deal with annoyances. It’s been encouraging to know that I’m not alone.
Goodbye frustration! I feel more zen already.